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To clarify, we here at Vogue are not anti-engagement rings. We are not anti-jewelry and we certainly are not anti-gifts. Rather, we are very much pro-gifts—especially glittery gifts that arrive in small velvet boxes. And while of course, we can appreciate the obvious appeal of a sparkly diamond ring, we also understand that there are certain situations when it’s okay, and maybe even (dare we say…) preferable, to consider proposing without a traditional diamond engagement ring.
For instance, if the perfect proposal opportunity is on the horizon, but it doesn t grant enough lead time to secure the perfect ring. Or similarly, if someone is still saving for their partner’s dream rock, but is eager to start planning their life with them, even without a diamond. There will then be the select proposals planned in impractical places to bring a ring: perhaps abroad, atop a romantic cliffside with a dreamy view, or on a boat, out at sea, where the stress of potentially losing a piece worth such a pretty penny is just too much to bear.
Some people will consider proposing sans-solitaire for different reasons, those surrounding their partners preferences, rather than logistics. Many future fiancés will find themselves at a complete and utter loss when it comes to ring shopping and would rather defer to their partners to choose or design their own rings—an ideal situation for those who skew a bit more Type A than most. After all, many brides-to-be would prefer their dream ring to a surprise one they’re not entirely in love with and often go to great lengths to ensure they wind up with just that—from dropping subtle hints about their ring size or desired shape to giving strict guidelines on cut, color, clarity, and carat weight.
Vogue’s Proposal Jewelry Picks and Alternative Engagement Rings
- The Alternative Engagement Ring: Marie Lichtenberg engagement ring, $78,840
- The Subtle Ask: Alex Monroe just my type question mark necklace, $245
- The Tie-the-Knot Ring: Tiffany Co Tiffany knot ring, $2,500
- The “I Love You” Bracelet: Maya Brenner mini 3-number bracelet, $370
- The Secret Save the Date: MysteryJoy secret ring, $5,270
- The Personalized Pick: Brent Neale custom bubble number ring, $7,900
- The Non-Traditional Diamond Ring: Spinelli Kilcollin Nova diamond ring, $7,400
- The Colored Cocktail Ring: Brilliant Earth sky blue topaz and diamond cocktail ring, $1,890
- The Something Blue Band: Kwiat blue sapphire band ring, $1,400
- The Everyday Watch: Cartier Panthère de Cartier watch, $8,350
Others will have partners who are on the entirely opposite end of the spectrum—those with absolutely no desire for a ring, or a diamond, for that matter. Perhaps, in these situations, it’s best to eliminate an engagement ring altogether, at least, for the time being.
But proposing empty-handed may not sit quite right with those who appreciate the finer things in life. Our solution? Opt for another piece of proposal jewelry to pop the question with, an alternative engagement ring, if you will. Because while of course, you don’t need a fancy diamond to propose with—it’s the person (not the piece) after all—that’s the most important part of any proposal, having a sparkly substitute certainly wouldn t hurt.
Below, is our guide to the best proposal jewelry, alternative engagement rings, and other jewelry gifts–from thoughtful and symbolic pieces that serve as placeholders for the real deal, to splurge-worthy items that are easily justified by the significance of such a momentous and joyous occasion.
Let the Jewelry Do the Talking
For those who aren’t great at expressing their feelings or are worried they might get tongue-tied when the time comes, consider proposing with a piece of jewelry that expresses your love or asks the question for you. From Marie Lichtenberg’s over-the-top take on an engagement ring complete with a hidden diamond, a bold question mark, and the phrase “would you marry me” engraved on the inside, to options that ask a bit more subtly, like Alex Monroe’s question mark necklace, dotted with a single diamond, today, many jewelry designers are getting creative and delivering fun, fresh ways to propose.
Subtle Symbols of Love
Hearts and flowers are the obvious choice here, but locks and knots, which often symbolize marriage, are also sweet ways to mark this new chapter of your relationship. Want something more creative or a bit inconspicuous? Look to Robinson Pelham’s cleverly disguised Eye Die 4 U ring or Garland Collection’s matchstick necklace for the person who sets your soul on fire.
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When Words Fail, Use Numbers
A custom piece always shows extra thought and attention to detail. Try personalizing an item of jewelry with a special date that marks a significant day in your relationship, or go with 143, the numerical equivalent of I love you.
A Non-Traditional Diamond Ring
Choose a funky diamond ring for a partner who s looking for maximum sparkle and uniqueness.
Lucky Colors
Some people still want to rock a ring but are looking for something a bit more colorful than the traditional white diamond. Consider choosing a cocktail ring with a colored stone, similar to Princess Diana’s—and now Kate Middleton’s—iconic sapphire engagement ring.
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Wear Your Heart on Your Sleeve
For those who may deem an engagement ring a bit too flashy or impractical, contemplate proposing with an everyday staple, like a watch.
