Singer Banks Wore a “Sexy and Romantic” Lace Vivienne Westwood Dress to Wed Lacrosse Star Drew Snider
When lacrosse player Drew Snider slid into the pop star Banks’s Instagram DMs in 2019, little could the couple have known that a few years later they would be getting married. “I was on tour and saw a DM that said, ‘How long are you in Seattle?’” she remembers. “I went to his profile and saw he was a very handsome and accomplished athlete, which was kind of funny to me since I’m an artsy weirdo. It was late at night on the tour bus and I was in a whimsical can’t-sleep mood, so I started chatting to him and found him really charming.” Drew asked Banks (née Jillian Rose Banks) if she could grab a drink with him, but she instead invited him backstage to her show. “By the end of the night, I was intrigued and had a crush,” she admits.
The couple became engaged in March 2024, after Snider proposed during a trip to a cherry blossom field near where they live in Seattle on their anniversary. Despite initially taking a relaxed approach to wedding planning, largely because they wanted something fairly low-key and untraditional, they soon realized that they might need some help, so recruited Drew’s cousin Susanne to take on some of the heavy-lifting. Banks’s mother’s best friend, Gretchen Durgan, was also brought in to do the flowers, while the couple curated a playlist themselves (“with none of those, ‘you make me want to shout’ style songs,” laughs Banks). They settled on a two-day celebration in August 2025, taking place at the couple’s shared home in Seattle.
Despite initially finding her dream wedding dress online—a lace gown with a train and matching veil by Vivienne Westwood—the singer felt that she should try on a few others first to make sure. “I had this idea that you were supposed to find your wedding dress at a fitting with your mum and your best friends, drinking Champagne and crying because you found ‘the one’ after trying on multiple gorgeous dresses,” she says. “So I made an appointment at a beautiful bridal shop and had that moment, and it was really fun. But every dress I tried on I was comparing to the Vivienne Westwood one I had in my head.” Eventually, she found her way back to that first dress, which she describes as being, “a bit sexy, a bit romantic.”
To allow her dresses to do the talking, Banks kept her accessories minimal, opting for shoes by Jimmy Choo and wearing her engagement jewelry, plus a bracelet borrowed from her sister. She took a similar approach to her beauty look for the ceremony, with her make-up artist Charlie Riddle focusing on a luminous complexion, with softly lined eyes and rose-hued lips for a romantic feel. Meanwhile, her hairstylist Philipp Verheyen had the brief of “Jillian meets Banks,” so that the bride looked both like herself and her musical alter-ego, with a little bit of goth thrown in for good measure. He emphasized her face with an elegant bun, tied with white lace matching her dress, pulling the whole look together.
The couple took a unique approach to their wedding weekend by having a small, intimate ceremony in a secret wildflower garden near their Seattle home on the Friday, saving the party for the following night. “We did our vows in private before the ceremony,” shares Banks. “It was such a special moment, and I’m glad we kept it to just us.”
After their vows, the couple joined their family for the official ceremony, with Banks’s niece acting as flower girl and her father walking her down the aisle to “Baby” by Donnie and Joe Emerson. The ceremony was officiated by Banks’s dear friend Alison Crowley, who she credits with doing a great job at bringing the couple’s love story to life. And despite it being sunny for a month straight prior to the wedding day, it of course rained. “But actually, it made it more beautiful and cinematic,” she laughs. Afterwards, guests headed to Carmines, one of the couple’s favorite Italian restaurants nearby. “Our dads gave speeches and we ate our favorite dishes,” she remembers. “Then my aunt threw us a welcome party at a swanky bar nearby, Black Bottle, and I changed into an amazing Grace Loves Lace beaded minidress to start the real celebrations.”