Weddings

The Bride Wore Oscar de La Renta to Her Wedding at a Neo-Gothic Mansion in Italy 

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Because Cascina Lago Scuro is a functioning farm, the menu was all farm-to-table. During cocktail hour, there were mountains of delicious cheeses and meats. “We didn’t specifically ‘decide’ what would be served at the aperitivo besides the wines and drinks,” Nneya says. “We were just able to trust them about the food and ambiance.”

Michele, meanwhile, served as the de facto event planner. “He spreadsheets everything!” Nneya jokes. “We didn’t use an actual wedding planner—from designing the invites to creating the bonbonniere [Italian wedding favors], it was all us.”

While the groom handled all of the logistics for the wedding, the bride was in charge of the creative elements that made the weekend truly spectacular. “Rehearsal dinners aren’t common at Italian weddings, but we knew we definitely had to have one and Michele had been to enough American weddings to call them ‘the meet and greet,’” Nneya explains. “We also wanted to do biking in the hills, a visit to a historical building in Bergamo, and we really loved it when we attended Donizetti Opera, so we organized a tour for us there.”

Nneya’s mom loves a project, so she did the bonbonnieres, ordering all the sacks and tags for this Italian almond party favor tradition. “The day of the wedding, she, my godmother Paulette Lang, and my friend’s husband Will Cart took over a corner of the dressing room floor and attached them to honey jars from the farm,” Nneya says. “My maid of honor Sophie Elgort and bridesmaid Kelly King went to work steaming my dress, so it definitely was a bride’s workshop!”

For the first event of the weekend, Nneya wore a Fendi spring 2009 runway look. “I wanted to incorporate Italian designers into my wardrobe so Fendi and later Gucci were perfect nods,” she says. Then, to walk down the aisle, she wore Oscar de la Renta. “When I found it, I knew,” she says. “I went to so many different wedding boutiques, and I just wasn’t wowed. Everything I put on, while I loved it, I thought ‘I could dye this black and wear it to this gala in the winter.’ I didn t want to feel that way about my wedding dress. Then, went to Glamour Closet, and the showroom manager Krystina took me under her wing! Once I saw my Oscar de la Renta hanging there, I just knew. My mom always wanted me to wear Oscar and her face kind of sealed the deal for me.”

For jewelry, Nneya knew she’d wear her grandmother’s pearl drop earrings, and her mom bought her pearl bracelets with semi-precious stones on them for the occasion. “It was very special having my grandmother Hazel with me in some way on the day as Michele and I both say our grandmothers are always watching over us,” Nneya notes.

The bride wanted a Black designer for her bridesmaids’ dresses, so she turned to her friend Stella Jean, who suggested looks from her new collection with Desigual. “It was important for me to highlight diversity and size inclusion so being able to do it with Stella was incredible,” she says. “She’s Roman and Haitian, so I even felt her designs blended my family’s Caribbean roots with Italy!” (The Scaglione company did the pocket squares for the groomsman, of course.)